Just feel everything

So I am catching on from The Primal Scream that the end goal is for the body to feel that it is safe to feel anything.

Anything that comes up from the past, any stored feelings, any "unacceptable" feelings, etc. '

When you feel a feeling coming, you normally do a "check" to see, is it ok to feel this?
The same way you pick up on what is safe to touch/eat etc. from your parents, you might pick up on what is safe to feel from them, too, and learn their habits (e.g., of not feeling).

I guess you get to a point where when you do that "check," you say, yes, it's ok to feel this.

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I think as kids we might learn some things are not ok to feel, because they might be overwhelming, we might not be able to control ourselves, our parents might abandon us for feeling them, etc.

But as adults with more of a prefrontal cortex, it's more ok to feel. Our brains can handle it better.

That's why I think we develop these patterns of running away from feelings as kids, and then being surprised when we finally let ourselves feel stuff as adults at how it is, well, not as overwhelming or long-lasting as we had expected. Often less painful than going around with repression.

And I guess the point is to respond to your own feelings without fear or depression, to just let them exist, see them as neutral and acceptable.

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